- Who it's for
- Inside Parent, Outside Caregiver
- Child / youth age
- All ages
- Geography
- National
- Action type
- Talk
- Reading time
- About 5 min
- Last verified
- August 2026
What this is
A shared agreement template for how two adults exchange information about a child.
Why it matters
Most co-parenting conflict starts with surprise. Agreeing in advance on what gets shared reduces it.
What you should know
- Sort information into three buckets: needs to be known now, can be shared at the next call, and is not the child's business.
- School, health, and safety changes belong in the first bucket.
- Adult disagreements belong in adult conversations, never in a call with the child.
- Write the agreement down so it survives a hard week.
Talk about it
Adults only: agree on one topic that will not be raised in front of the child.
Your next step
Choose the one update that will always be shared, no matter what.
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