- Who it's for
- Inside Parent, Whole Family
- Child / youth age
- All ages
- Geography
- National
- Action type
- Talk
- Reading time
- About 3 min
- Last verified
- August 2026
What this is
A three-part call structure: connect, listen, close.
Why it matters
Short calls often fill with logistics. Structure protects the part the child remembers.
What you should know
- Open with something specific you remembered from last time.
- Ask one real question and let the silence sit.
- Save logistics for the adults, not the child's minutes.
- Close with when you will speak next, if you know.
Talk about it
Use one Table Talk prompt instead of 'how was school?'
Your next step
Write down one thing to ask about on the next call.
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