- Who it's for
- Inside Parent, Whole Family
- Child / youth age
- All ages
- Geography
- National
- Action type
- Talk
- Reading time
- About 4 min
- Last verified
- August 2026
What this is
Practical writing guidance for parents who communicate primarily by mail, with prompts by age.
Why it matters
A letter is one of the few pieces of a parent a child can hold. What is in it shapes how the child remembers this period of their life.
What you should know
- Ask about specifics — a teacher's name, a game, a friend — rather than 'how is school'.
- Younger children respond to drawings, puzzles, and short lines they can read alone.
- Older children respond to being asked their opinion on something real.
- Avoid promises about dates, release, or outcomes you do not control.
- One line of encouragement about who they are lasts longer than a page of advice.
- Number the letters; children often keep them in order.
Talk about it
Ask your child which letter they remember best and why.
Your next step
Write one letter this week that ends with a question your child can answer.
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