- Who it's for
- Outside Caregiver, Whole Family
- Child / youth age
- Ages 0–11
- Geography
- National
- Action type
- Talk
- Reading time
- About 5 min
- Last verified
- August 2026
What this is
Guidance for caregivers on what to say, at what age, and how to keep the door open.
Why it matters
Secrecy usually costs a child more than the truth, and other children talk.
What you should know
- Use simple, true language and stop when the child stops asking.
- Reassure the child about who is caring for them and what stays the same.
- Children are not responsible for the situation and should be told so directly.
- Repeat the conversation as the child gets older; understanding changes.
Talk about it
Ask: 'Is there anything you've been wondering about that nobody has answered?'
Your next step
Decide which trusted adult the child can also go to with questions.
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